BEYOND LIMITS 101
Transforming Your Limiting Beliefs
This is for the individual fed up with self-sabotaging their ways of thinking. Somewhere along the way, you learned a strong belief that molded you into having fears, doubts, and limits to what you can do. No matter where you picked up this little annoying hitchhiker bitch, YOU have the power to change that limiting belief into a new thought pattern.
Hi! Welcome to Beyond Limits 101, I am your guide IMCALLINGBS, and in this short article, we are going to dissect some limiting beliefs you may have, figure out where you picked those shit stirrers up from, and send loving, healing energy to that part of you that needed it at the time. I know this isn’t something you are used to, but TRUST that this will help us let go of these limiting beliefs and expand our minds & hearts to new ways of thinking.
Let’s be honest, everyone has a belief that no longer serves us. Heading into the new year of 2025 with the whole world engaging in resolutions (that will die off in 3 months)…. we are going to make this new belief stick. #newyearnewme
COMMON LIMITING BELIEFS
“I’ll never be successful doing something I love”
“I don’t have enough time”
“Same shit, different day”
“I won’t feel happy until I …”
“I’m not good enough, qualified enough, smart enough, pretty enough, enough enough”
“I can’t trust anyone; people hold me back.”
The list can go on and on and on, IT’S AWFUL!! What are we doing to ourselves? Now I get it, at one point we learned this from a parent, a friend, school, or relationships, maybe we even made it up ourselves to protect ourselves from feeling pain. Wherever we picked these beliefs up from, they don’t have to stay along for the ride, especially if something is calling you to expand and receive love. Recognize that at some point a part of you (probably younger), felt that way, and give yourself a damn hug. No one is going to rescue you, no one is going to go back in time and fix that moment where you told yourself this limiting belief; it is up to you now to heal. From a wiser, older, more evolved mind, tell your younger you that you love them, you care for them, and you are going to actively be there every day.
Some of this may be foreign at first to some people, but THAT IS OKAY. Do uncomfortable things, and the results will speak for themselves. Wouldn’t it feel nice to feel lighter every day? To see people laughing and dancing, and wish you could experience that joy? When we see others doing the damn thing, we cringe, we tense up and a part of us no longer is all loving. We may envy them, hate them, or experience jealousy; the reason we feel this is because we don’t think something in us is capable, worthy, and deserving. The mirror is looking back at you, it’s on you to be aware, send that compassionate energy to yourself, and choose to take a step in the direction of love.
WHERE THE HELL DID THIS COME FROM?
If only I freaking knew. I have had to carefully dissect some nasty beliefs in deep meditations and each time a new memory is unlocked of where I may have learned it. The reason it is important to understand where these beliefs came from is because how are we need to truly heal if we aren’t honest about why we feel pain, anger, anxiety, shame, or depression.
I am going to share a vulnerable moment in therapy this past week because it is relevant to how we can find a limiting belief that is affecting the present moment because of the past. Unknowingly, sometimes we don’t make the connection that a younger, hurt part of us is in the driver’s seat.
In my younger years, I was put in some high-stress situations, oftentimes my parents would shield me to protect me from seeing what was happening. I was young, and even though I may not have known exactly what was going on, I had a pretty good sense that I felt unsafe and not secure in my environment. My brother was an addict, and due to his addiction, we had on several occasions blowups in the house with his behavior. I would hear yelling, violence, and a sense of urgency to dismantle the chaos, all from a door closed in another room alone. After these blow-ups, unfortunately, I don’t remember anyone asking me if I was okay or talking about what happened. This created two beliefs,
If I voice my fear or true feelings, I assume I’ll be met with reactiveness, defensiveness, or anything other than love.
If someone doesn’t anticipate my emotions and ask how I am doing, it means they don’t care
The first limiting belief I created myself to protect myself. To protect my heart from experiencing pain, even though I have no idea how my parents would react if I had asked. I told myself a narrative and stuck with it, which carried well into my other relationships, unknowingly, especially with partners whom I experienced lots of love for. The second limiting belief was an example engrained in my brain since I was ten, through parents who genuinely were doing their best at the time, navigating such treacherous waters. I held on to this example, though, as a standard for anyone else who would come to love me, that if they didn’t ask, they didn’t care.
Two very real, debilitating beliefs that I unknowingly held onto for 15-plus years. That 10-year-old self has been driving the car, without a damn license and no clue what she’s doing and all she wanted was to give the steering wheel up to someone else. Now that healing comes into play, I am finally aware of these limiting beliefs. I had to get extremely uncomfortable to figure out what was holding me back from love. Be honest, accept my truth, and send loving energy to the younger version to heal.
HEALING (ACTUALLY)
By sharing my intimate realizations, I hope that somewhere within yourself, you can reflect on a limiting belief you may have and try to illuminate where this came about. Send loving, healing energy to that part of you, and tell that part you have control now. The wiser, more aware, and stronger you are in the driver’s seat. TOGETHER, you and this older part can co-create a life beyond limiting beliefs.
The way I view healing is as a spiritual daily practice. More so, when you are triggered, the way you react is a conscious choice to do things differently than you’ve always done before. This is when you start to notice results of healing when the things that used to trigger you no longer have an effect or at least a minimal one!
For example, I used to have a really hard time apologizing when I was in the wrong, specifically with my parents. They would share something with me, and I’d react poorly, and instead of apologizing for the way I reacted I sat in silence. I knew I didn’t dare to own my mistakes and admit fault to someone else. I was too righteous in my point, my ego, and my attitude. But as I have gotten older, I have recognized that “sorry” is a bridge to love with someone. Now, when and if I react poorly to something, I take a deep breath, recenter myself, and admit my fault to that individual so that I can build that space for love. Having compassion with yourself first allows the space for that individual to have compassion as well. You can’t expect love from someone when you are in a place of shame and hatred.
Healing is a way to reveal oneness with ourselves and with others. Healing is the daily, conscience practice that no one is a master at. This isn’t something taught in schools or even at home, but it is one of the most important skills to master for a life that is full of love and compassion. When you feel your body get anxious, or tense, maybe you are triggered by external forces, take a deep breath and send this loving energy (you are capable of harnessing) to yourself. Why is it so easy to send love to others and so hard to give ourselves love unconditionally all the time, ESPECIALLY in times when we need it most?
Maybe that’s a new limiting belief I have for myself. Writing that out I noticed a shift like hey, BEFORE you thought it was hard, now you are actively learning and taking the steps to practice daily, you can love yourself the same way you love others. Honestly, I can love myself tenfold than what someone else can show love for me. Accept this love, embrace this love, and fuel your love with the reason that you are deserving. Take those limiting beliefs and unravel them, figure out why one day you picked that pesky hitchhiker up, and send it some damn love. Heal that part of you that needs it and keep practicing every day to open your heart to unconditional, infinite love.
If any part of you resonates with the stories I shared, the overall message of healing consider tuning in for my weekly blog. I am just a girl with a big heart who wants to share the very things that have helped me lead a life of love. I appreciate you taking the time to get whatever you needed out of this and keeping an open heart & mind to the possibility of healing your limiting beliefs. Until next time, treat yourself with kindness <3
